I can't **cking decide where to go/be. I feel so stupid to have this
freedom and so unable to use it effectively. I'm in Singapore at the moment. In
6 days I'm homeless again meaning I have no place to stay unless I make plans
and pick a place!
I've thought about doing a vacation place like visiting Bali for a week. What
will give me another week to decide yet again, where next. Going alone doesn't
sound that fun to me though I have a friend that's done it. Could waste time in
Australia or go back to Europe for a couple of months just to do it but it
feels like I'd just be putting off deciding rather than doing something fun or
So where to actually plant some roots?
I spent 8 months last year back in LA. The first time I'd spent any long time
there since 2000. It's big and sprawling. To visit friends I often had to
drive 40−70 minutes. I found I hated driving in LA as well. It was super
Only good place to live IMO is west side near ocean but LA felt really lonely.
No places to get work done. Every cafe was either full or I had to give up my
seat in 2 hours to use the restroom. I didn't feel welcome at most places. Not
really sure what that means. Maybe the fact that service workers in the USA all
seem to hate their job and their customers. Compare to Japanese service
workers. They may or may not hate their jobs, I have no idea, but they
certainly don't let that on most of the time and always do their best to
actually provide real service.
I could pick some neighborhood and get an office though that would be lonely as
well. Maybe more likely to find collaborators though. There's a large indie
game community in LA as well as a large art community.
Everything closes by 9:30. Want something to eat after 9:30? Fast Food and
shitty American convenience stores is all there is. Compared to Tokyo I felt
like I was stuck at home after about 9pm.
The weather is awesome and there's some awesome friends there. My sister and
nephew are there as well and my mom for a couple of months a year.
LA now feels like a settle down place as in if I had a wife and kids and lived
in some suburb where my life was play with my kids in the yard it would not be
Could live on the east side where all the Asian food is and there's a few tea
houses that are open late but I always feel hated by American Asians. Not my
friends of course but just in general.
I tried downtown. It also felt isolating and lonely. Stepping outside seemed
scary. Grocery stores seemed far. Again compared to Tokyo where most of the
places I've stayed in the last couple of years there's been 3 to 6 24 hour
convenience stores with actually good food open 24 hours usually less than
1−3 minutes away by walking. LA has some 24 hour grocery stores but they
really aren't the place to grab a snack. The prepared foods at a 24hr Safeway
are pretty horrible. Whole Foods or Trader Joes might be better but they close
I have a few friends there but something about those friends so far has not
been very inspiring. Sorry, that sounds horrible. Those friends are awesome,
amazing and talented but for whatever reason I'm not inspired to be
entrepreneurial by them so much. I only say that in comparison to a few friends
in LA, Kyoto, and Tokyo. Like I feel like hanging out there is settling for a
certain kind of lifestyle which is basically exist and then hang out with
friends in a kind of rut like way. I suppose that ends up the same anywhere
though. You get a few favorite places and just go there over and over.
SF also has the 2hr cafe problem and not enough of them. The one bright spot is
the Workshop Cafe but it's full often as are many others.
SF is probably really expensive. People say a 600 sq ft apartment for 1 is now
around $3000 a month!
Public transportation exists but it feels like ass. Scary people doing scary
things. Last time I was a there a group of kids in the back were tearing down
the ads on the bus. Ripping up the ads, pulling down the plastic dividers and
hitting each other with them. Then getting out their markers and writing on the
windows and seats. To a lot of Americans that sounds almost normal and like a
rite of passage but having lived in safer places where people actually value
the shared public interest it's actually a very poor reflection on Americans
and is one of those reasons that makes me not like my country.
I don't like Japanese women. Haha. Actually to put it slightly more objectively
if I go on say OkCupid the percent it claims I match based on the answers to
questions goes way way WAY down. Like from lots of women in the 80−99%
range when in the USA to most women being in the 30−60% range. Of course
that might mean absolutely nothing and there are certainly some amazing
Japanese women I've met. Rather it's just some small evidence that I'm less
likely to meet someone I'm truly compatible with there. Or at least it feels
that way. On the other hand I get more attention so maybe that's means the odds
increase in general since I get zero attention anywhere in the USA.
Another thing about Tokyo or Japan in general is applying for a visa will be a
PITA. I'll need to start a company. Which also brings up the number of
potential partners and/or employees would seem to be way smaller. The
stereotype is that most Japanese want a stable job at a large company. There's
foreigners there but certainly the number of potential candidates is much much
smaller than anywhere in the US.
On the plus side I love the late night in Tokyo. I can walk down many streets
in Tokyo at 3am on a Monday night and see restaurants and bars busy with people
having fun times and conversations. Where else does that happen? No where in LA
or SF. Maybe NYC? Although, my impression is that's a very different scene.
There's nice, friendly, and safe Starbucks open till 4am. There's
co−working spaces that are 1/2 to 1/3rd the price of anything in LA or SF
And I have lots of friends there. Or at least enough that I feel like I get to
see people socially 2 or 3 times a week which is more than LA or SF. As soon as
I think that though I then think "Well I can make friends anywhere. I just have
to make it happen" and so I shouldn't pick Tokyo for that reason.
I've spent about 4 weeks total in Kyoto as a non−tourist. Meaning those 4
weeks I wasn't visiting temples which is the only thing I'd done the previous 5
or 6 times I'd been to Kyoto.
Kyoto isn't that small of a city. 1.5 million people is bigger than Copenhagen,
Amsterdam, Munich, Brussels, Milan, Stockholm, Prague. Technically it's bigger
than all but 6 cities in the USA including Dallas, San Jose, San Francisco.
But for whatever reason it feels really small. There's a core area that's only
a few blocks large where most stuff seems to center around. You can bike from
one side of the city to the other in 15−20 minutes. Less than SF. If
you're out late a cab ride is unlikely to be more than $10−$20.
There's a large group of foreign game devs mostly because there's 3 game
companies run by foreigners including Q−Games, Vitei, and 17bit. That
means there's a community that's easy to jump into.
At the same time Kyoto feels a little like a place to settle down with a family
more than a place to be as a single guy. I'd love to be settled down with a
family but so far that hasn't happened. I've clearly got some issues there.
Kyoto also seems much cheaper than Tokyo and Tokyo cheaper than SF or LA.
I've spent a few months in Singapore. I can't really say I know it that well.
My fiction is that it would be hard to find collaborators. Most people want
high paying jobs in finance or IT. Singapore doesn't have any reputation for
creatives whatsoever except maybe in architecture. I don't know if that has
anything to do with reality but it certainly feels that way to me just from
looking at what's on offer in stores, ads, campaigns etc...
It's also hot year round and everyone is fat. I'm not complaining about fat
people only that I can see myself getting fat because the heat means I won't
want to ever walk or go outside and the ubiquity of easy food literally EVERY
seems like it would be no time before I'd gained 30lbs.
Singapore also seems boring in some ways. I've had some great time there but it
really feels like all their is is shopping and eating.
Women wise my impression is I'd be more likely to meet someone there. Then of
course I'd probably be stuck in SG. Maybe that would be ok though with an SO.
I've never lived there and only visited twice a week at a time. I like that
there's public transportation and the busyness of megatropolis like Tokyo but
it doesn't feel safe. Riding the subway in NYC is often depressing and scary.
(same in SF actually). At least compared to SG or Tokyo.
There does seem to be a lot going on there related to games and I have one
friend there and suspect I'd quickly make more.
The weather sounds like it sucks. Blizzards in the winter. Sweltering heat in
I guess I'm mostly intrigued as just a new experience to live somewhere new. Of
course all my stereotypes also turn me away like I expect all the women want a
rich guy from wall street and that NYC will be super expensive. I'll need
roommates and won't be able to really experience the parts of the city that
make it so attractive.
I don't even know why this is on the list. I suppose I could add a bunch of
other European cities here including London, Paris, Amsterdam, and Copenhagen.
I have no idea how I'd immigrate but I guess the excitement is just that they'd
be really new experiences. Berlin in particular is supposed to be reasonably
priced and I got a relatively good vibe while there. If I picked any of those
except London I'd have to learn a new language but that's a also a draw.
I feel like if I had a girlfriend and she was into any of these I'd totally do
it. I don't know why that feels more compelling than just going alone.
I met an American guy that lived in Kyoto for 12 years and his plan is to move
to Berlin. Not sure how that's relevant except as an anecdote that others are
excited about Berlin. I've heard lots of other people bring it up as one of the
places they are most fond of in Europe including lots of Europeans.
On top of all of that like I mentioned above about "I can make friends
anywhere". When I think how like the nightlife aspect of Tokyo and the
co−working spaces another, a more logical side thinks "Why do I care
about night life. It's not like I actually take advantage of it that often and
as I age or if I finally meet someone it's likely to become very unimportant".
Similarly with co−working spaces and cafes. Most likely I should rent an
office and once I do that cafes and co−working spaces have no meaning. Of
course my impression right now is even an office is cheaper and easier to rent
in Tokyo or Kyoto than LA or SF or NYC. No idea how easy it is in Europe. I'd
guess Berlin is easy and the rest hard.
One friend said "just pick a place and try it for a year" but like I said
previously I won't plant roots if I don't commit to a place.
Some people say "make a list". Well that list is above. It's not helping.
Anyway I **cking can't decide!!